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Welcome to 2023, Trek Tribe!

If you haven't had a chance to reflect on your 2022, you still can! And here's the link to the template I shared in my last newsletter.

Another easy but powerful tool I learned recently that I plan to incorporate in my own regular "rhythm" of review includes two questions:

- - - What has been done THROUGH you?

- - - What has been done FOR you?

I like how these incorporate awareness, gratitude and an intentional looking back.

Based on your reflect and review, what do you have planned for your 2023 Reset? Per Statista.Com here are the most common New Year’s Resolutions for Americans in 2023 with physical health rounding out the top three:

Resolution Rehab.

Can we talk resolutions? A resolution is a goal- and a plain old goal will NOT get you past January 4. This is a mistake - doing the hard work of distilling your goals with no action plan.

How do you translate your goals to REAL CHANGE?

In a nutshell, goals are formed by the part of your brain that sees the big picture and says “yep, I want to lose a few pounds, be more positive, leave work at work, and drink more water because I will feel better and enjoy life and be a positive influence."

Awesome!

There’s another part of the brain focused on short-term, right now (think, impulsive!) This part of the brain has more influence over the day-to-day because the brain prioritizes efficiency and automatic.

Here's the rub: for many desired goals, the day-to-day automatic, right now patterns and brain conflict with the big picture want-to-do-this-differently long-term brain.

If we don't connect these long-term goals in a way that short-term brain reads them, then your “I want to be more positive and lose a few pounds” lasts about one day before the pity party and reaching for the ice cream resume.

The scoop.

You've done the hard work of distilling, reflecting and getting more clear on your what and why -this is important!

You may be familiar with the SMART goals acronym which has been updated to SMARTER goals. Here's more detail on these.

I like this template because that short-term right-now part of the brain operates from “conditions”. For example, “If I see donuts in the break room, I will eat the chocolate one” becomes “If I see donuts in the break room, I will eat one small piece of candy from the container I’ve prepped instead.”

You need to come up with the specifics that will work for you. What are the triggers and what will you do instead? Practicing your If…Then over time will translate to a new habit.

If you take it one step further, do you know what triggers your triggers? Here’s a personal example. When I haven’t gotten to everything I had hoped in a day, I easily fall prey to my inner critic (yep, Edna). She says things like, “You took too long on those emails.” or “You missed your exercise class again.” This is a trigger for my irritability trigger. And if I don’t get a handle on these while I’m driving home, the criticism will flow out onto my loved ones and my focus of attention will fall to messy rooms and dirty dishes rather than, “How did your days go?”

So my conditional set-up for this first requires that I RECOGNIZE the trigger of not-enough-ness. Then, my conditional habit (I'm still working on this) is "If you fall prey to self-berating, Then start your gratitude list." I move my attention to everything I am grateful for beginning with running water to brush my teeth that morning down to the privilege of getting to do what I do!

Is This YOUR Next Trek?

A lot of my work with coaching clients centers on MINDSET. This leader now recognizes the deeper threat of others to her own goals, professional reputation and sense of self. We have worked on getting honest about her expectations of self compared to her team, her boss and how the discrepancy holds her back.

If you're looking for an opportunity for YOUR PERSONAL GROWTH, may I recommend the 2023 Women's Enneagram Group Coaching Cohort - check it out here!

Goal fulfillment hinges STRONGLY on sharing and living out your goal in community- this group offers built-in ACCOUNTABILITY!​

I'm Hitting the Trail.

I'm always inspired by the individuals and couples who commit to a personal coaching intensive with me and have several of these scheduled through Feb. I love focusing exclusively and deeply and helping each person build their very own flourishing forward.

I'm also very excited for upcoming opportunities in Jan and Feb to support local small businesses and not-for-profits via Team Development workshops!

I have the privilege of being a plenary speaker at the upcoming CMDA Remedy 23 East Conference in April! I am so honored to encourage these healthcare professionals to building their personal and professional RESILIENCE!

If you'd like to coffee consult for yourself, your team or your business or organization, just click below- your email comes straight to my inbox!

Let's Talk!

To your very, very highest in 2023,

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